Who you were
Something in you went quiet. Not gone, and not your fault: it just stopped getting a turn, for long enough that reaching for it now feels strange.
We found dozens of people describing this in almost identical words, and in one community alone eight of them used the question "who am I now" as the actual title of what they wrote.
Where to actually get help
- r/AskWomenOver30 and r/AskMenOver30Two of the few places where people say this plainly and get answers from people who came out the other side.Free
- Your library, through LibbyFree audiobooks and ebooks with a library card. Named specifically because it is the single thing people in this position mention reaching for most, and it costs nothing.Free with a library card
- Open Path CollectiveTherapy at a reduced rate for people without adequate insurance. You pay a one-time membership, then sessions are a set low rate.Session rates well below the usual private fee
- FindahelplineFree, confidential helplines wherever you are in the world. Search by country and by what is going on.Free
None of these are ours and none of them pay us. They’re just what we’d send a friend.
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